hi there mnida,
it was so long and busy 3 days..i stayed in the office till late nights just because of some small numbers..thats the world i guess..world is turning around some numbers sometimes..anyway it wasnt that successful also because we couldnt make it totally..and all these effort didnt make a good result so it was also frustrating but i learned things during these days..
at first dont make any promises that you cant do because you will lose trust and more..dont lie to anyone in any situation after that it can make problems to yourself and then other people..try to be productive not just damage the things..and dont make yourself worry too much because of other people's words because they dont know maybe what you are doing and also you dont know why they say these words..communication is so important in social business life..
maybe i have more things to write but i know that everyday i learn something and that makes me a better person and maybe more stronger..
MNIDA
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Friday, July 27, 2007
being in the middle
hi there,
today was a busy and rough day at work but i learned good things about work..the internship program became more harder and i fely lucky that i have been already in USA..
today i realized that we all try to find other people's mistakes..when we catch them we try to exaggarate it and make small things bigger..but isnt it fair that you just know what happened and maybe you dont know what is going on..people need to have empathy in these times..
there is one thing i remember..there was 2 guys in the war..one of them almost kill the other one with a sword but the other one spit on his face before the other tried to kill him..and he stopped and he said i am not gonna kill you now because i wanted to kill you bec you were my enemy but now u spit on my face and this time i was gonna kill you because of my anger to you..i hope i did tell it right..
what i meant was sometimes our words and reactions are like a spit on people's face and its hard to be ok with that person..its easy to break hearts and do bad things..and also its easy to remember bad things..i know life cant be fair always but at least we should try..especially myself i need to be fair..
mnida
today was a busy and rough day at work but i learned good things about work..the internship program became more harder and i fely lucky that i have been already in USA..
today i realized that we all try to find other people's mistakes..when we catch them we try to exaggarate it and make small things bigger..but isnt it fair that you just know what happened and maybe you dont know what is going on..people need to have empathy in these times..
there is one thing i remember..there was 2 guys in the war..one of them almost kill the other one with a sword but the other one spit on his face before the other tried to kill him..and he stopped and he said i am not gonna kill you now because i wanted to kill you bec you were my enemy but now u spit on my face and this time i was gonna kill you because of my anger to you..i hope i did tell it right..
what i meant was sometimes our words and reactions are like a spit on people's face and its hard to be ok with that person..its easy to break hearts and do bad things..and also its easy to remember bad things..i know life cant be fair always but at least we should try..especially myself i need to be fair..
mnida
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
behind the mirror
hey mnida,
today it was a slow day in the beginning..but after the hours passed, me and my friends had a surprise..we would go to US embassy today..like at 4 pm we were there..this was the first time i have been to embassy for another reason not to get a visa..
and this time i had the chance to see the people behind the mirrors who interviewed me and a lot of people..and i realize that how we thought about them before..they were like a monster and crazy people for us..but when we had the meeting and conference you realize that they are also workers there and maybe they try to do their job in their best way..
i learned interesting things also..the agencies who send students to US are a lot in Turkey and all around the world..USA accept almost 125.000 students just for Work&Travel program and just from Turkey this amount is just 8500..i see how a big industry it is now all around the world..
after the conference we all met with the people who work in consulate here and it was pretty cool..they were so nice to us..some of them are leaving the country and the new ones are exchanging here also..
sometimes i feel this way also..its hard to be behind the desk or mirrors..because people dont know what you are doing and why you do something..its not just for the consulate people its for all of us..always managers need to be nice and be with our opinions..but to be realistic we all need to be professional..
for not just my future we all need to see and think about other people..a little empathy and think about what we are saying and what people are doing..
MNIDA
today it was a slow day in the beginning..but after the hours passed, me and my friends had a surprise..we would go to US embassy today..like at 4 pm we were there..this was the first time i have been to embassy for another reason not to get a visa..
and this time i had the chance to see the people behind the mirrors who interviewed me and a lot of people..and i realize that how we thought about them before..they were like a monster and crazy people for us..but when we had the meeting and conference you realize that they are also workers there and maybe they try to do their job in their best way..
i learned interesting things also..the agencies who send students to US are a lot in Turkey and all around the world..USA accept almost 125.000 students just for Work&Travel program and just from Turkey this amount is just 8500..i see how a big industry it is now all around the world..
after the conference we all met with the people who work in consulate here and it was pretty cool..they were so nice to us..some of them are leaving the country and the new ones are exchanging here also..
sometimes i feel this way also..its hard to be behind the desk or mirrors..because people dont know what you are doing and why you do something..its not just for the consulate people its for all of us..always managers need to be nice and be with our opinions..but to be realistic we all need to be professional..
for not just my future we all need to see and think about other people..a little empathy and think about what we are saying and what people are doing..
MNIDA
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
talking or listening?
hi there mnida,
today was kinda slow and boring but at least there was stuff to do. generally we talked in the office with my friends about new things in the programs. at this moment i realize that listening is so important as we all know, but of course we cant make it sometimes. but today i realize one thing also. talking is also important like listening.
listening is the way that you respect the person talking and its kinda improving your personality. because when you listen people you can empathize and understand people more and i think listening is one of the most important thing between the relationships.
talking is hard also. because we all need to know what we are saying. we can talk for hours but after all these words sometimes you wont see anything in front of you, even sometimes empty faces. so talking must be attractive, short and understandable. i know this is hard but if we look for our future we need to make sure how we talk and listen. at the right time, at the right place with the right words.
i hope i will improve this ability. thats gonna be important for myself in the mean time and also for future. but i believe that listening is more harder for all human being so we need to start from the bottom part.
mnida
today was kinda slow and boring but at least there was stuff to do. generally we talked in the office with my friends about new things in the programs. at this moment i realize that listening is so important as we all know, but of course we cant make it sometimes. but today i realize one thing also. talking is also important like listening.
listening is the way that you respect the person talking and its kinda improving your personality. because when you listen people you can empathize and understand people more and i think listening is one of the most important thing between the relationships.
talking is hard also. because we all need to know what we are saying. we can talk for hours but after all these words sometimes you wont see anything in front of you, even sometimes empty faces. so talking must be attractive, short and understandable. i know this is hard but if we look for our future we need to make sure how we talk and listen. at the right time, at the right place with the right words.
i hope i will improve this ability. thats gonna be important for myself in the mean time and also for future. but i believe that listening is more harder for all human being so we need to start from the bottom part.
mnida
Monday, July 23, 2007
MNIDA, what its the expectation of life?
hi there mnida,
it was a nice weekend.i went to ankara and i saw my mom and my sister there this weekend.and Turkey had the elections yesterday and one party was chosen with a big percentage.except these i had the long road trip.
this weekend i realize one thing about our lives. thats about our expectations, not just mine not just my family's, not just my friend's, its all about our expectations. when i talked to my mom i realize her expectations and my sister has different expectations and also me of course i have different expectations from this life even i can say this world.
but sometimes i realize that we forgot our human side and we dont know what life can bring us. so we need to keep these expectations low sometimes as my opinion. of course everybody expect something and when he/she didnt get it, its just gonna be frustrating of course. one of my friend said something and i remember it now. he said happiness is about your expectations. you have two ways: first, keep your expectations high and if you dont get them you wont be happy. second, keep your expectations low and feel happy generally.
sometimes that sounds like you cant have your desires but thats not about it at all. for example you have money and you wanna buy a car and you want the better one but your money isnt enough for it. so does it make sense to borrow money from people to buy the expensive car. i think that you shouldnt need to think about money after buying a car. something like that.
one thing i learn from life was that. dont expect too much from people and i try to treat people like that. so i dont have to play with their feelings but i try my best to do something what people expect from me. you realize the difference i think.
mnida
it was a nice weekend.i went to ankara and i saw my mom and my sister there this weekend.and Turkey had the elections yesterday and one party was chosen with a big percentage.except these i had the long road trip.
this weekend i realize one thing about our lives. thats about our expectations, not just mine not just my family's, not just my friend's, its all about our expectations. when i talked to my mom i realize her expectations and my sister has different expectations and also me of course i have different expectations from this life even i can say this world.
but sometimes i realize that we forgot our human side and we dont know what life can bring us. so we need to keep these expectations low sometimes as my opinion. of course everybody expect something and when he/she didnt get it, its just gonna be frustrating of course. one of my friend said something and i remember it now. he said happiness is about your expectations. you have two ways: first, keep your expectations high and if you dont get them you wont be happy. second, keep your expectations low and feel happy generally.
sometimes that sounds like you cant have your desires but thats not about it at all. for example you have money and you wanna buy a car and you want the better one but your money isnt enough for it. so does it make sense to borrow money from people to buy the expensive car. i think that you shouldnt need to think about money after buying a car. something like that.
one thing i learn from life was that. dont expect too much from people and i try to treat people like that. so i dont have to play with their feelings but i try my best to do something what people expect from me. you realize the difference i think.
mnida
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
MNIDA,what makes you scared?
hi htere mnida,
today started so slow and go on in this way..i dont know but i see that i didnt realize too many things today..sometimes i feel like staying at home and dont want to do anything..of course i learned pieces from the internet,books and Holy things..i can just say maybe i need more to satisfy myself..
i think about the future today..we always plan like we are gonna live in this world forever but we also know that this world is gonna say 'bye bye' one day..but what is all desire inside us that we keep on making ourself tired for this world..yeah of course we are human and we need to live in this world and we are sent by God here..but sometimes everything seems and sounds so empty to me when people talk or even i talk..i feel like i waste all the words that i used..
i see everybody has dreams in this world and i agree that we should have dreams and desires..but sometimes we forget ourselves..and i just want to say sometimes all the things are worth it?..i will get my answer one day but i know that i shouldnt forget to look inside myself with a mirror..
MNIDA
today started so slow and go on in this way..i dont know but i see that i didnt realize too many things today..sometimes i feel like staying at home and dont want to do anything..of course i learned pieces from the internet,books and Holy things..i can just say maybe i need more to satisfy myself..
i think about the future today..we always plan like we are gonna live in this world forever but we also know that this world is gonna say 'bye bye' one day..but what is all desire inside us that we keep on making ourself tired for this world..yeah of course we are human and we need to live in this world and we are sent by God here..but sometimes everything seems and sounds so empty to me when people talk or even i talk..i feel like i waste all the words that i used..
i see everybody has dreams in this world and i agree that we should have dreams and desires..but sometimes we forget ourselves..and i just want to say sometimes all the things are worth it?..i will get my answer one day but i know that i shouldnt forget to look inside myself with a mirror..
MNIDA
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
MNIDA, am i kinda lazy?
Hi there mnida,
Today started good actually..Its been while that i wasnt waking up early so it showed me that i was kinda becoming lazy so today i decided to wake up early and do what i supposed to do..But after i went to work i still realized that its coming from inside that human being is lazy or at least we all choosed the easy way..for example if there is someone who knows about something we just let them do the work..we dont even wanna touch it..
Also i realized that this laziness make us so slow and followers..Actually we should be more creative and more talented..In these aga everything becomes easier so its one of the reason also we become lazy maybe but also all the technology in this times give us a lot of oppurtunities for each of us..So all we gotta do is to fight with ourselves..
Today i realized one more thing at the end of the day..That was about leaders make people follow them and their reactions,motions directly become an example to followers..If the leader is slow and smooth,followers become like that..So i said to myself its hard to be a leader but if you are a leader you need to make sure of all your actions are watched by the others..the biggest examples politicians,religious people and more examples you can give..
Thats all for today..I improve better and better everyday..I hope God let me go on this way..
MNIDA
Today started good actually..Its been while that i wasnt waking up early so it showed me that i was kinda becoming lazy so today i decided to wake up early and do what i supposed to do..But after i went to work i still realized that its coming from inside that human being is lazy or at least we all choosed the easy way..for example if there is someone who knows about something we just let them do the work..we dont even wanna touch it..
Also i realized that this laziness make us so slow and followers..Actually we should be more creative and more talented..In these aga everything becomes easier so its one of the reason also we become lazy maybe but also all the technology in this times give us a lot of oppurtunities for each of us..So all we gotta do is to fight with ourselves..
Today i realized one more thing at the end of the day..That was about leaders make people follow them and their reactions,motions directly become an example to followers..If the leader is slow and smooth,followers become like that..So i said to myself its hard to be a leader but if you are a leader you need to make sure of all your actions are watched by the others..the biggest examples politicians,religious people and more examples you can give..
Thats all for today..I improve better and better everyday..I hope God let me go on this way..
MNIDA
Monday, July 16, 2007
mnida what happened that day?
hey mnida and dear friends,
as i look behind for today i learned new things again..first of all the bad side of human and good side of human..how many times can we realize the good and bad or we just go inside their world and folllow the other people?..i think God gave us the feeling inside what is good and what is bad but sometimes we just choose bad because other people chose it or sometimes we follow our feelings..i hope i will choose the good side always but i cant do it so i pray God to show me this way..
another thing that i realized today about the jokes we made..sometimes we made a joke and we didnt even realize how the person felt after that joke..everybody is not the same and cant take everything in a nice way..
the last thing i realize today was being so happy when i was alone and pray to God..it was like heaven..there was no worry about the world's stress..no scream no loud..just me and God..we all need to be alone sometimes to see ourselves i said inside my heart..if i need people need it i think..
thats kinda all for today and i made a schedule for myself to improve..i hope it will work with God's will of course..inshallah..
mnida
as i look behind for today i learned new things again..first of all the bad side of human and good side of human..how many times can we realize the good and bad or we just go inside their world and folllow the other people?..i think God gave us the feeling inside what is good and what is bad but sometimes we just choose bad because other people chose it or sometimes we follow our feelings..i hope i will choose the good side always but i cant do it so i pray God to show me this way..
another thing that i realized today about the jokes we made..sometimes we made a joke and we didnt even realize how the person felt after that joke..everybody is not the same and cant take everything in a nice way..
the last thing i realize today was being so happy when i was alone and pray to God..it was like heaven..there was no worry about the world's stress..no scream no loud..just me and God..we all need to be alone sometimes to see ourselves i said inside my heart..if i need people need it i think..
thats kinda all for today and i made a schedule for myself to improve..i hope it will work with God's will of course..inshallah..
mnida
Sunday, July 15, 2007
mnida be careful about your reactions
hey there all of you guys..
yesterday some stuff made me realize more things..i need to check myself for my reactions..because sometimes i cant know other people's mood,thoughts and what happened there..i always can say that from phone or chat you cant blame anybody because you even dont know how the person is..so i just need to be patient..
yesterday i realize one thing also how i am lazy sometimes..i need to make a program for myself which can improve myself..its easy to lay down and dont do anything..but God didnt give this time for these stuff...i know i am guilty sometimes and i need to be careful about my life more..from my words to my reactions i need to be grown person..i need to be strong to myself and then i can be ready for life..
mnida
yesterday some stuff made me realize more things..i need to check myself for my reactions..because sometimes i cant know other people's mood,thoughts and what happened there..i always can say that from phone or chat you cant blame anybody because you even dont know how the person is..so i just need to be patient..
yesterday i realize one thing also how i am lazy sometimes..i need to make a program for myself which can improve myself..its easy to lay down and dont do anything..but God didnt give this time for these stuff...i know i am guilty sometimes and i need to be careful about my life more..from my words to my reactions i need to be grown person..i need to be strong to myself and then i can be ready for life..
mnida
Saturday, July 14, 2007
what mnida think today
hey guys...
yesterday i met with one of my friend and we talked almost 2 hours and it was pretty good..we start from how we grow and how we will die and what are we doing in this world..the purposes are just to get a nice job and be rich in that life?..like these kind of topics..and i realize that we need to check our lives and we need to be careful about our reactions..we came to that world and life is not that long for us..
when i got on bus today i saw an old lady trying to get on bus and one guy just stand up and helped her and she was so happy..maybe life means a lot in that time to me..happiness isnt so far from any of us only when we try to reach our dreams..i need to think about other life also when i see people going there..so am i ready for there?..do you think are you ready?..we need to think more but as i always say i am talking to myself at first and share my feelings here..
take care people..
yesterday i met with one of my friend and we talked almost 2 hours and it was pretty good..we start from how we grow and how we will die and what are we doing in this world..the purposes are just to get a nice job and be rich in that life?..like these kind of topics..and i realize that we need to check our lives and we need to be careful about our reactions..we came to that world and life is not that long for us..
when i got on bus today i saw an old lady trying to get on bus and one guy just stand up and helped her and she was so happy..maybe life means a lot in that time to me..happiness isnt so far from any of us only when we try to reach our dreams..i need to think about other life also when i see people going there..so am i ready for there?..do you think are you ready?..we need to think more but as i always say i am talking to myself at first and share my feelings here..
take care people..
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
life is hard with people but this is the way it goes
Hey guys,
I realize that week life can't be without human..Sometimes fun,sometimes sadness,sometimes laugh and sometimes cries..But imagine that you are just by yourself here..Wouldn't it be weird?
Also i really see that you are getting more strong when you learn other people's lives if you are not a selfish person who see the world just turning around him/her..I really understand one thing also..This is what they called nature war..The strong always beat the weak ones..Yeah i can say it is right but not always..The weak ones will get strong one day and they can control the life better than strong ones and they wont be like strong ones..
Anyway as a human we need to see the world and we need to use the things what God Gave to us..
I realize that week life can't be without human..Sometimes fun,sometimes sadness,sometimes laugh and sometimes cries..But imagine that you are just by yourself here..Wouldn't it be weird?
Also i really see that you are getting more strong when you learn other people's lives if you are not a selfish person who see the world just turning around him/her..I really understand one thing also..This is what they called nature war..The strong always beat the weak ones..Yeah i can say it is right but not always..The weak ones will get strong one day and they can control the life better than strong ones and they wont be like strong ones..
Anyway as a human we need to see the world and we need to use the things what God Gave to us..
Monday, July 2, 2007
life is just a marathon that we make ourself tired
Hi there people,
My name is Mustafa. I am in Istanbul,Turkey now. I work in a study abroad agency and i have a lot of nice things in my life.I have nice family and nice friends.I cant complain about anything in my world when i see other people's lives.We just came to this world for some purposes and the needs of the modern life cant satisfy these feelings.I hope a lot of people think like me so world can be a better place to live.Imagine just one day and look at yourself.I think we will see the bad things that everybody complain is also coming from our mistakes.I am talking to myself here because i am just here by myself now.Maybe one of you can read these things and we can talk these things all together.
My name is Mustafa. I am in Istanbul,Turkey now. I work in a study abroad agency and i have a lot of nice things in my life.I have nice family and nice friends.I cant complain about anything in my world when i see other people's lives.We just came to this world for some purposes and the needs of the modern life cant satisfy these feelings.I hope a lot of people think like me so world can be a better place to live.Imagine just one day and look at yourself.I think we will see the bad things that everybody complain is also coming from our mistakes.I am talking to myself here because i am just here by myself now.Maybe one of you can read these things and we can talk these things all together.
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